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Rutherford Handout

Rutherford Family Handouts

These are the handouts provided by the Rutherford family when they present their experience to others. These handouts are included with the  Rutherford family video which you can order by printing and mailing this order form.

Handout 1: Provided with the video of "When Memories Lie ... The Rutherford Family Speaks to Families"

TOPICS TO BE SHARED

  1. Regressionism (Recovered Memory) Therapy
  2. How did the reconstruction of past memories occur in therapy? What was the PROCESS?
  3. How does a sibling come to believe the allegations?
  4. The tug-of-war that goes on between choosing between the side of the sister or the parents.
  5. How do you not lose love for you child?
  6. How do you forgive your child for doing this?
  7. What gets through to a sibling to make them change their mind about the accused (parents)?
  8. What happens if you badger the siblings to get them to come to the truth?
  9. What brought the siblings home?
  10. How does the sibling deal with the guilt of standing with their sister against their parents?
  11. How to get your child to meet with you. What might you do in order for him/her to be willing to see you again for the first time?
  12. What does an accuser (daughter) need to hear from the accuesed (parents)?
  13. How does an accuser make her way home?
  14. How does a sibling get through to an accuser?
  15. Why does the accuser send mail back without opening it?
  16. Ideas for reaching out to the accuser.
  17. If I cannot forgive my child, should I try to get the family back together?
  18. How do you deal with the stress of these horrible allegations: loss of job, reputation, name, church, friends. Staying sane.
  19. How does a husband and wife help each other cope?
  20. Handling the stress of each other's different personalities.
  21. Cautions to keep from being to aggressive or doing too much to get the accuser to return.

Handout 2: Provided with the video of "When Memories Lie ... The Rutherford Family Speaks to Families"

How did the reconstruction of past memories occur in therapy? What was the PROCESS?

P - Put doubt in your mind.
R - Remember back into your childhood.
O - Omit the good and focus on the perceived bad.
C - Commitment that the dreams and ideas are "true memories" and flashbacks of reality.
E - Emotionalize the memories. Establish loyalties to the therapist.
S - Separate from parents and all those who do not believe your accusations.
S - Steps of accusations and confrontation.
 
 
 
 
 

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